Many of our online actions take place from our phones. Like computers, cell phones may be monitored remotely to provide instant updates on your whereabouts, habits, or activities to others, including access to call logs and text history.
If you’re concerned that your partner may be monitoring your phone, consider buying a pay-as-you-go phone to keep in a safe place for private usage. Keep a password on your phone (updating it regularly) and consider taking it into a cell phone service center to check for spyware.
Texting can be used as a way to exert power and control in a relationship.
If your partner texts you too much, it can not only be irritating but also unhealthy. Constant contact can be a sign of controlling behavior, and you should consider talking to your partner about giving you a little space if it’s affecting you. Using texts to monitor where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing is a warning sign of abuse .
If your partner asks for or sends you unwanted sexual content (“sexting”) or threatens you with content you’ve already sent, they’re acting abusively. You have the right to choose your own sexual activity, and you deserve to feel safe and respected in your relationship. Sexting can also have legal consequences: any nude photos or videos of someone under the age of 18 could be considered child pornography.
If you use your phone to document abuse, be sure to erase evidence from the device itself.
Keep it stored online in a separate, protected account or in printed form hidden away in private.
Remember: while they present their own risks to safety and security, cell phones can be valuable resources to help you reach a safer place.
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